Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Why is the wedding ring worn on the left hand

Isn't there a more beautiful sentiment that the promise, With this ring, I thee wed? With the exchange of wedding rings during the wedding ceremony, a couple promise each other their love for as long as they live.


But why do the bride and groom slip the wedding ring onto the third finger of each other's left hand?

Apparently, this tradition was started by the Romans, who believed that the vein in this finger led directly to the heart. As the wedding ring is a declaration of eternal love, the third finger of the left hand became the obvious place for the wedding ring. Science have since proven this theory wrong, but it is still the 3rd finger on the left hand that bears the wedding ring.

From a more practical perspective, as most people are right-handed, the left hand is the less dominant. The ring worn there wouldn't be as likely to get in the way or to catch on things and is less likely to be damaged.

Some traditions has the ring on the right hand for the engagement and moved to the left during the marriage ceremony. In another tradition, the ring is first placed on the thumb during the wedding, them moved to the first and middle before finally to the third finger of the left hand.

"The Chinese developed a theory (about the ring finger), which is actually really interesting and a bit fun to try. If you look at your left hand, each finger is a representation of the past, present and future generations within your family. For example, the thumb represents your parents, your index finger represents your siblings, the middle finger represents yourself, your fourth finger represents your life-partner and the fifth finger, your pinkie, represents your future children.

"Now it’s time for a little experiment. Place your hands together and bend your middle fingers together, allowing for your knuckles to touch. When doing this, allow for your other remaining fingers to touch.

"Begin to pull each finger apart, individually. You will see that your thumbs will pull apart because you are not destined to be with your parents forever. Now do the same action with your index finger and pinkie; you will see the same results. According to the Chinese theory, you are not meant to be together forever with your siblings, as well as your future children as they will leave the home and start a family of their own.

"Now try to do the same action with your ring finger, which represents your life partner. When you try to separate these fingers apart, it doesn’t lift as easily as the other fingers, right? This is because you and your life partner are meant to be together forever."

Neat, huh? Read the full article here :

Here is another wonderful article about weddings that is well worth reading. Pay particular attention to the definitions for 'husband' etc.

At the end of the day, as a symbol of two people's love for each other, does it matter which hand bears the ring? You decide.

Saturday, October 17, 2015


He's Married
Bridesmaids, Weddings & Honeymoons
Book 2

Eloise had the wedding of her dreams. It had all been arranged and done in a month. Now that the wedding night was upon her, Eloise’s fears raised their heads. Dane was a stranger to her. She realized that she shouldn’t have insisted that they wait for the wedding night to have sex. It wasn’t that she was that traditional, but Dane should have been given the choice.

Because Eloise had a secret.

Dane and Eloise left for the beautiful Maldives for a two-week honeymoon. In this idyllic setting, life threw Eloise a curve-ball.

Because Dane had a secret too.

She could have put up with anything, but this could shatter her belief in the fairy-tale.

How was she supposed to deal with another wife?

About the Author

Maggie Tideswell lives in Johannesburg, South Africa with her husband, Gareth. She started writing when her kids were still very young, squeezing a few paragraphs at a time in between the hectic schedule of raising three children and working full time in the catering industry.

She wrote many books before she thought about getting them published. Now that the children have all made lives for themselves, there is more time for writing.

Maggie’s choice of genre, after much experimentation, is passionate paranormal romance, of varying levels of heat. The current series, Bridesmaids, Weddings & Honeymoons, were intended to be straight forward passionate romance, without the paranormal, but before long there was a ghost on the page. The best thing to do was to give the ghost something to do. As the series progress, so does the paranormal aspect of the four couples’ love lives, until the culmination in the final book.

Maggie’s advice to aspirant novelists is two-fold. Never give up and write every day. Writing is a craft that has to be honed with practice. And the only way to practice writing is by doing it. And a bonus, never stop reading your favorite genre. Reading it and writing it is the only training for
a writer.

Bright blessings.

Maggie's books are available here:

Friday, October 9, 2015

The Origin of the Wedding Ring

 With this ring I thee wed

 The tradition of exchanging wedding rings goes back many centuries, and are part of the wedding customs of many different nations and religions.

The origin of the wedding ring reaches back to prehistoric times. The groom would bind the bride’s ankles and wrists with grass to keep her soul from escaping or was it really to keep her from running away? After the ceremony he would tie the 'rope' to one of her fingers.

Ancient Egyptian brides have been depicted in hieroglyphics wearing wedding bands. To the these people living around 4800 years ago, a circle symbolized eternity. These rings were made from woven reeds, papyrus and rushed. As these didn't last very long, more durable material substituted the biodegradable materials until precious metals were used. The metal rings were far from perfect and precious stones like diamonds were added to hide the flaws. Diamonds, because of their enduring quality, also symbolize eternity and became associated with love.

In Roman times the wedding ring took on a more romantic meaning. Not only did married women
have a right to their husbands' worldly possessions, the wedding ring also served as a sign that the wife had unlocked her husband's heart. In order to symbolize this, a key was often part of the wedding ring.
To the ancients, the circle was the symbol of eternity, with no beginning or end. The hole in the center of the ring also had significance. It wasn’t just considered a space, but rather a gateway, or door; leading to things and events both known and unknown. To give a woman a ring signifies never-ending and immortal love.

Originally only women wore wedding rings as a token of possession in the sense that the married woman belonged to her husband, hence wedlock.
Traditionally men didn't wear wedding rings, but since the great wars, when the soldiers wore wedding rings as a reminder of the wife and family and home waiting for their safe return, there has been a shift until today it is the norm for men to wear them as well.

When taking into account that the wedding ring is a sign of commitment, I feel it only right that men should wear them too. Read more on this here: