Monday, May 23, 2016

You're Wrong



Assumptions are invariably incorrect. Yet, people will stick with what they believe. Just as Rubi believed herself to be married for six years, until it was proven that she’d never been married at all. Finding herself a free agent again after years of waiting for her elusive husband, Rubi needed a man.

Upset by the echoes of her sordid past, Nathan walked into her life at precisely the right moment. Handsome, hot, and gay, he could only be a temporary distraction, or so she assumed. But what she didn’t take into account was that Nathan might have other plans for her. Even so, she wanted the real thing—a relationship, stability, and love—and Nathan couldn’t give that to her. Or so she assumed.

To prove her wrong about him, he abducted her and took her to the place where they first met, at Dane and Eloise’s wedding the week before. Back at the lodge, they find themselves in the same haunted room. Between the ghosts and Rubi’s insistence that he is gay, would Nathan succeed in changing her perception of him?

To add to her doubts, there’s also the matter of a certain secret he’s not ready to share.

You're Wrong, book 3 in the Bridesmaids, Wedding & Honeymoons series, will be available on 
June 15, 2016

Click on the covers on the left for an instant preview of book 1 in the series, Runaway Couple, and book 2, He's Married.

Sunday, May 15, 2016

2 Things to Do to Protect your Debut Novel

About a publishing experience gone bad... (I think)


I think it is commonly understood that, when a publisher takes on a new book, there was something about that book they felt that they could work with. But what about elements in the book that don't fit what they normally publish?

After months, or maybe even years - if it is the first novel - your book is finally finished and it says exactly what you are trying to get across. Then the process begins to get that masterpiece in front of the audience who wants to read it. And for a debut novel, don't we all still believe that we have to have a publisher behind the book? We read the small print for hundreds of publishers trying to find just the right one, and if we think our book might be a fit for a publisher, we submit. It's a tough out there.

This process alone might take months, and even years, while we work on the next book, and the next...you get the picture.

And then, out of the blue, the miracle happens - the full manuscript is requested by a publisher. You rush back to their website to remind yourself what they are all about, and while reading through their requirements, warmth floods through you. This is really going to happen, you tell yourself over and over, finally, your book fits a publisher's list who is willing to publish it.

BUT...

What are they really doing to your book?

The wrong publisher, just like the wrong editor, can do a lot of damage to your book. If the submission guidelines on their website state that: they will only accept 'a touch of romance', but that, if they like it, they will publish it, believe them, because they are serious.

What that means is that, if your book contains more than a touch of say, romance, be sure that they will cut it out.

* Be sure to read publisher's/editor's websites and guidelines carefully.

* Pay careful attention to the edit.

If you don't, your book might end up on the shelves devoid of the emotions (or whatever element is close to your heart) you took a long time to get just right. Your book might become something totally different.


If they are only interested in a little romance, how much of the emotional content in the book is going to survive? According to Dictionary.com, the definition of passionate is expressing, showing, or marked by intense or strong feeling; emotional. This what makes a romance, the emotions involved as two people find each other and fall in love. In a romance novel, all the other elements, like the paranormal, speculative elements, the murder mystery, the crime drama, whatever, are all secondary to the romance. So, if the wrong kind of publisher cuts out the romance elements, what is left? A soul-less story that doesn't engage the reader on an emotional level.

It is up to the author how much he or she is willing to sacrifice to get that first book out in print.





Friday, May 13, 2016

Busy, Stressed, and Food Obsessed





By Lisa Lewtan


     When stress comes knocking, we eat. When we’re celebrating, we eat. When we’re happy, sad, angry, bored, or relaxed, we eat. Whether we feel good about our bodies or loathe what we see in the mirror, we eat. And often, we hate ourselves for it.
    Diets don’t work. “No pain, no gain” tactics are emotionally and physically draining and ineffective, and they often employ shame and guilt—two excellent motivators for comfort eating.
     Food is the ultimate double-crosser. It provides pleasure and pain in equal measure, but unlike people, you can’t break up with food. Instead, you need to change how you think and relate to food so you reap the positives without letting it drive you to distraction.
     Healthy living strategist and personal coach Lisa Lewtan has the answer: an honest exploration of your relationship with food. Through mindfulness exercises and self-examination, you’ll learn to identify the chemical and emotional triggers that encourage you to eat and how to live a life where food strengthens, rather than weakens.
     Busy, Stressed, and Food Obsessed! offers a chance to transform your frenemy into a true friend. You deserve a healthy and delicious relationship with the food you eat.
     
     “A rich and powerful book which provides a roadmap to understanding yourself and your body.” — Christine Schuster, President & CEO, Emerson Hospital
   
    “A simple, readable format that is a valuable tool for anyone who is eager to do the work to transform their life!” —Marcy Balter, Board Chair, Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health 


5 REASONS WHY YOU NEED TO READ THIS BOOK

1. Get over the diet mentality and STOP beating yourself up about not always eating perfectly
2. Ditch the shame, guilt, and hardcore "no pain, no gain" tactics that do NOT work
3. Identify your OWN chemical and emotional triggers in order to conquer cravings for good
4. Incorporate the BEST mindfulness practices to slow down and reconnect with your body
5. Discover what truly nourishes you so that you can FINALLY stop thinking about food all the time

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
    The founder of Healthy, Happy, and Hip, Lisa Lewtan is a healthy living strategist and a graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.
   Using skills she developed as a successful technology entrepreneur, Lewtan self-hacked her own mind and body to restore her health and wellness. She now uses those same skills to help superstars slow down, chill out, improve their relationship with food, look good, and feel great.
     Lewtan’s articles have been featured in numerous publications, including the Huffington Post, Better after 50, and MindBodyGreen. Visit www.HealthyHappyandHip.com to learn more about Lewtan’s private coaching sessions, workshops, and retreats.


MOTIVATION TO WRITE THIS BOOK

   Completing my book "Busy, Stressed, and Food Obsessed!" was one of the greatest accomplishments of my life. It tested my focus, commitment, authenticity, and passion in ways I never could have imagined.
     Within days of beginning my book-writing project, my father-in-law passed away. 4 weeks later my 13-year-old dog died. 6 weeks later my dad died. 10 days later, my husband broke his back in 3 places. I wanted to give up everything and move to a deserted island and just cry, but I couldn't. I had made a promise to myself and I intended to keep it.
      I set a deadline. There was a contest and I was determined to win it. The contest had a whole list of criteria and I used it as my guide. I would finish the book in time to win, whatever it took. I knew that many authors never finished their projects and that the deadline was necessary.
     I wrote most days but not all days. I recorded thoughts and transcribed. I brought in old blog posts. I brought in text from courses I had created. I brain-dumped. I changed my mind and moved things around. I then moved things some more. It had to flow. It had to make sense.
     I took online courses on how to write books to help your business and how to publish and how to promote your book. I took care of my family. I tried to run my business.
    I wrote at my desk. I wrote on airplanes. I wrote in coffee shops. I grieved. I kept my business going. I wrote in the dark at 5am in a hotel room on vacation so I wouldn't wake up my husband.
    I sent out tidbits. I hired editors. I hired a graphic artist who disappeared mid-design. I spoke to publishers. I spoke to hybrid publishers. I decided to self-publish. I used social media. I hired another graphic artist. I hired an interior designer. I hired another editor. I still found typos.
    I finished. I promoted. I did all the things I learned. I checked off every box on the contest guideline list. My book got great reviews. My book became and Amazon bestseller. My book got me on TV and on the radio. My book helped change people's lives.
   My book, however, was not a winner in the contest. I found out the day after my mother unexpectedly died. I was devastated. The deserted island was calling to me once again. I was crushed. Defeated. Lost.
     Again I cried. Again I grieved. Again I picked up the pieces of my life. But this time, I had a book to pick up and take with me. I look at this book and know that I can do anything.



 EXCERPT 

     For those of us who are busy, stressed, and food obsessed, sometimes food is our best friend and, at other times, our worst enemy. We eat because we are tired, happy, sad, lonely, anxious, bored, excited, triggered, and sometimes, when we are actually hungry.
   We eat in the car, while on the phone, while watching TV or on the computer, while reading books, while making dinner, and hopefully, sometimes, even while sitting at a table.
    Some of us eat healthy one day and not the next. Some of us feel good about our bodies and what they look like on the outside (at least on some days), and some of us absolutely do not ever feel good about the way we look.
     Some of us, despite that fact that we look like we have perfect bodies, are agonizing over the last five pounds, and some of us, despite the fact that we are fit and happy, are tormented because we are seen as overweight.
     Some of us are very controlling about what we eat, and some of us are very controlled by what we eat. Some of us count calories all day long, survive on fake food, or try to eat how we deem to be absolutely perfectly, sometimes to a fault.
     For all of us, food is an issue. An issue that can, at times, make us feel crazy.I Get It. I Lived It. But Not Anymore.



Friday, May 6, 2016

Why are Ghosts seen wearing Clothes? - Here's Why


     Clothes aren't part of the human body, so how can it be part of the spirit of the deceased we see as ghosts? Because we see ghosts as wearing clothes, that might be proof to those who don't believe in ghosts that they are no more than a figment of the imagination of those that do.

The famous picture from The Shining


      In life, the energy inside a person is called his spirit or soul, which is at the basis of the personality. Science can't prove the existence of the soul/personality, but we all know it exist. So, why can't this energy exist outside the body once the person dies? If this is possible, this electromagnetic energy we know as the soul or spirit, that also contains the personality, is what we see as ghosts. In a lot of instances, what we see is no more than a cloudy, formless apparition, but when the ghosts appear as wearing clothes, they are identifiable as human.
 
      This electromagnetic energy is precisely the grounds for the skeptic to disprove the existence of ghosts. Scientific experiments have shown, after all, that exposure to high levels of electromagnetic energy can cause people to have vivid dreams, nightmares and even hallucinations, and because ghosts are accepted to consist of electromagnetic energy, ghost sightings are no more that tricks of an exposed mind, right?

     But if ghosts are no more than energy, why do they need clothes? Most of the ghosts seen wearing clothing are simply "residual" images – imprints or memories that linger on the atmosphere of a place, like a recording. This type of ghost doesn't have a "personality", but is simply like an old movie playing over and over.

     In other words, people are seeing clothes because they have been conditioned that people wear clothes. The clothes aren't necessary to the ghost, but our brains process them as clothed in order to class them as 'human'.

    
The London Ghost
And what about the other type of ghosts, the spirits who remained behind after death, the ones who aren't merely imprints of past events? If spirits have any sort of control over the energy they are now comprised of (or even if their personalities are somehow manifested in the energy), then I would think it possible for the witness to see the spirit as the spirit sees itself. If the personality really does remain, the spirit would visualize itself as it was when alive, appearing as a living person and wearing clothing. The ghost might even make the person see what the ghost wants them to see.The clothes aren't real either. When the ghost disappears, the clothes are gone too.

    The ghosts in the Bridesmaids, Weddings & Honeymoons series are residual ghosts up to book 3 - You're Wrong (which will be released in June). The clothes they're seen in dates them to a certain period in the past, although they are like a recording on a loop. From book 4, the ghosts themselves change and become more interactive - and dangerous! - but still they are seen in clothes of the same period.

     So, what do you think? Are the clothes ghosts are seen in a preconception or a part of the reflection of the person the ghost used to be